I’m In Charge Of My Happiness

Most times when I ask a random question either to parents or children, parents would want their children happy also the children like wise want their parents happy too.
No matter what parts of the world you come from, learned or not, average or significant, what ever language spoken they all spell this common word Happy.
So what makes you not to be happy ?
Is it people, environment what ever it is you in full control of your happiness.

The simplicity to this life is choose a path and the best path is innate. Hey do not be sad or mad at things you can not control, focus on what you have not what you want to have, you might not have it!
Stop being angry with everyone or everything, life is a rare commodity guard it with all diligence and jealousy, it is yours.
Let go of guilt, the past just decide to forgive it is as if you taking a breath, breathe a new air of happiness, a new possibility. It is not easy if you do not fight for your happiness.
I close with this; two monks coming from the monastery to the stream, they meet a pretty lady and they began conversing with her. The two monks realized from the chat, that the pretty lady in a silk dress they met wants to cross the stream without messing her beautiful dress. Because she is going to a wedding on the other side of the stream. One monk carried her and helped whilst the other was judgmental, sarcastic and mean from that action taken by the wet monk who assisted the pretty lady in a silk dress, of which the lady was thankful.
Eventually the two monks arrived  home/ monastery, wet monk dried up and slept, the other was cross and bitter by his friend’s action. Since the monk was cross, he came and woke up his friend who helped the pretty lady earlier seeking clarity.
The answer was I carried her to go to the other side of the stream in happiness and kindness and you carried her back to the monastery bitter and miserable. 

 Live life happy not bitter change the bitter to better.


Stop Modern Day Slavery 

Millions of people worldwide are trapped in what amounts to modern-day slavery. 

Shackles and whips are seldom used, but individuals desperate for money are lured into jobs in which they work for meager wages, live under the threat of violence, are subject to sexual abuse, and constantly fear arrest or deportation. 

Of all the ways that workers are exploited, the most poignant stories tend to be those of women caught up in sex trafficking. A recent report by theBritain-based Anti-Slavery Internationalgroup, for instance, notes that many women leave impoverished homes “with dreams in their eyes, fear and excitement in their minds at what awaits,” but too often are duped into a life of prostitution, where they are intimidated, abused, and blackmailed. A woman who manages to break free might still be charged with prostitution or illegal immigration. If she returns home, she faces shame. In some cultures, she faces death.

Stephanie Hanes’s Monitor cover storyexamines this difficult subject. She makes clear that forced prostitution must be combatted for the crime that it is. But because of the age-old human fascination with sex, it is all too easy to focus on that problem and overlook the many other ways that women, children, and men – as many as 27 million, by some estimates – are exploited in global industries built on cheap, often forced, labor. Everything from the produce we eat to the mineral components in our cellphones, from the clothes we wear to the unskilled workers cleaning our buildings, may be part of this system.

Forced prostitution is one of many forms of exploitation. And even it is nuanced. Sometimes the force is overt. Sometimes it is psychological. And sometimes prostitution is a choice.

Please understand: Pointing this out isnot meant to minimize the problem. TheUnited Nations estimates that at any one time as many as 2 million sex workers are under coercion. Celebrities, activists, religious officials, politicians, and concerned citizens rightly decry the practice. But the compelling nature of the problem of sexual exploitation often diverts attention and resources from other forms of forced labor.

What can any of us do? 

For one thing, we can be alert to situations in which women, men, and children are living in the shadows. We can also be more conscious of choices we make that feed the demand side of human trafficking. Cheap goods are great, but what are the conditions of the workers who made them? You can get an idea of how what we buy affects human trafficking. 

To be continued…

Digital Contents The Future

Ask self, If you’re not blogging in this day and age, are you at a disadvantage?

I see a day in the not too distant future (if it’s not here now) where your “digital footprint” will capacitate far more weight than anything you might include in a resume or CV.
It’s perhaps not so relevant (yet) in the public education sector where the criteria for employment is not always  based solely on a meritocracy, but in the private sector there is a definite awareness of an individual’s digital footprint as a way to gauge their involvement, passion, engagement and understanding of their chosen field.
It may not yet be happening in the public sector because of unionisation and the existing promotional structures in place, but in the outside world where people are employed, promoted and recognised by their actual contributions and not just by the amount of time they have been in a given role, the notion of knowing about an individual because of the trail of concepts they leave behind them in their online networks will play a larger role.
I’m certain that almost EVERY employer these days has Googled you before they call you for an interview in some countries or ran a background check of some sort. Many people in the private sector (and I’m not just talking about education) are being offered positions or getting headhunted because of the presence they have created in their online spaces (influence) .
Having a blog, a Twitter account, even a Facebook… these things are not just about giving you a place to talk about mundane and trivial stuff that no one else interested in… they are in fact building your “personal brand”, as the marketers would say.  You can say that’s pretentious and that you want no part of it, but the fact is that the online persona and online presence you develop by creating this digital footprint is playing an increasingly important role in defining who you are (or at least who you appear to be).
Unfortunately, NOT having an online presence says a lot about you too.  If I was staffing a school where a passion for education was valued, I would be very dubious about employing someone who could not show any evidence of an online presence.  If I couldn’t find any record of them being part of online communities, being involved in online projects, contributing to the global conversation about education, I’d be extremely doubtful about whether they were the right people for the kind of school I wanted to staff.
This is one of the reasons why we need to not block kids from accessing network resources… The question is not whether they will have a digital footprint…  they will.  The question is whether it will say positive things about them or whether it will portray them in a negative way.  We have a unique opportunity to provide our students with a digital footprint that says wonderful things about who they are, what they can do and where their passions lie, but unless we actively teach them how to make it positive it may not be the case.

And if we don’t actively understand and engage with that process ourselves, we will most likely do a pretty ordinary job of helping our students do it right.

What Do You Need

An interesting philosophy I found during research, let me share. We’re going through a once-in-a-century transformation in business that is throwing out all the existing rules.

The Leadership Insider network is an online community where the most thoughtful and influential people in business contribute answers to timely questions about careers and leadership. Today’s answer to the question “What advice would you give someone looking to start their own business?” is by Tien Tzuo, CEO of Zuora.

The first piece of advice I would give anyone starting a new business is to forget everything they learned in business school. Or better yet, don’t go to business school. Why? Because right now we are going through a once-in-a-century transformation in business that is throwing out all the existing rules. And that includes everything that the MBA programs are currently teaching their students. Don’t believe me? Let’s look at how business has been taught for the past 100 years. It is a truth universally acknowledged that the fundamental goal of business is to create a hit product. You then sell as many units of that product, thereby spreading your fixed costs over as many units as you can, and you compete on margins. Well, in my opinion that’s all worthless. Those days are gone.

If you’re starting a new business today, it’s highly doubtful that you’re selling a physical product on a per unit basis. You are probably launching something online in order to deliver great services, not sell widgets–think of all the new delivery services like Instacart, BloomThat, Washio, or PostMates. This is because the world is shifting from selling products to selling subscriptions, and in the “subscription economy,” companies are focused on generating recurring revenue. So it’s not about the price of the product and the margin. It’s about delivering value to customers, so they don’t want to switch services. But in order to manage this effectively, you’re going to have to do five things, and answer one very important question:

Define subscriber metrics
You’re going to have to think about measuring annual and total contract values, payments and declines, monthly and annual recurring revenue, and relationship retention. Stuff they don’t teach in Accounting 101.

Understand your consumer
People now expect products to adapt to their specific needs. They expect ongoing value and unique experiences. And they’re not as interested in methods as they are outcomes. Stuff they don’t teach in Marketing 101.

Personalize your service
The product economy is dead–products can’t be personalized. A product can’t learn your behaviors and preferences. A product can’t be constantly upgraded, so that it gets better—instead, it becomes obsolete. Stuff they don’t teach in Manufacturing 101.

Customize access
People now define ownership as managing the decline of a physical asset. They’re opting for access over ownership: ride shares, streaming services, and subscription boxes. Stuff they don’t teach in Design 101.

Create a great experience
You have to create services that can learn and adapt based on behavior. Services that can improve themselves autonomously. Services that can be truly customized. There’s no MBA class for that.

And finally, the key question isn’t “What product can I sell?” but rather “What do my customers really want, and how can I deliver that as an intuitive service, rather than a stand-alone product?” Answer that question and you’re on your way.

ditch the pitch

No one needs me to point out that the media landscape is changing and the marketing world expanding faster than you can say “commercial break.” The options for viewers — streaming video, YouTube, social media — have pushed traditional advertising to stretch and take risks like never before.

As viewer demands accelerate, forward-thinking companies are creating content that doesn’t interrupt, but is itself the destination.

For my company, that has meant mixing up our marketing blend to include content like “Two Bellmen.” The 17-minute action comedy takes place at JW Marriott LA LIVE. We were aiming to engage potential customers by broadcasting sheer entertainment. What we got, more than 5 million views and counting, was extraordinary. Rather than interrupting what potential customers are interested in, we became their interest. We became content so compelling that viewers were inspired to share it with friends who in turn shared it and so on.

“Rather than interrupting what potential customers are interested in, we became their interest.”

Does it mean every viewer will book a room at the JW? Not necessarily. Then why devote resources to it?

Because value-first content is part of an overall marketing strategy.  When done well, viewers appreciate the company who has created it for them. They have an emotional reaction, one that inspires them to share it.

Every share, “like” and comment builds a community. Supported by a steady drumbeat of other well-received advertising and organic content, the results take the form of a powerfully positive brand association. 

This is the guiding principal behind our second film, French KissIt’s in the DNA of our online magazine Traveler and the new blogging community we are launching today on LinkedIn, Overheard@Marriott.

The Overheard content is democratic (small “d”), not Marriott specific. Thought leaders and experts offer their advice, not The Company’s. (Today, you can read more about creating content that connects.)

Marriott is not alone in ditching the hard sell. Some of my favorite content has been produced by companies like MetLife and British Airways.

Bottom line, all different kinds of content can work, as long as you keep these points in mind.

#1) If the content does not lead with value, it will be ignored.

#2) If the advertising is too overt, today’s audiences will be turned off.

#3) Content can be synonymous with conversations. And conversations are always better when they’re engaging – whether at a cocktail party or online.

And a bonus one for those on the content creation side: 
#4) It’s more interesting to create content of value. It’s more fun to create content that’s great fun.

 What kind of “commercial” will you stay with? What kind would you design to engage an audience?


Grasshopper Mentality In Asset Management

This information I researched ,hopefully it will help you.

“Some people are making such thorough preparation for rainy days that they aren’t enjoying today’s sunshine” – William Feather.

One fine summer’s day a Grasshopper was hopping about chirping and singing. An Ant passed by carrying a large bag of corn husks on her back. 

“Come and dance with me” said the Grasshopper, “Why not peel the husks off that corn and we can both use it to sit comfortably and enjoy the glorious sunshine”

“I’m using the husks to build a shelter for the winter,” said the Ant, “and recommend you to do the same.”

“Winter?” said the Grasshopper, “It’s summer now!”  But the Ant went on her way and continued her toil.

When winter came, the Grasshopper found himself shivering from cold while he peered through the window of Ant’s energy efficient home. 

The Ant saw the hypothermic Grasshopper through her insulated window and invited him inside on the condition that he listen to a story about the five ways to prepare for the end-of-life replacement of assets (such as roofs and boilers).

The Ant thought it would be good to use human beings as an analogy to help educate the Grasshopper and impress upon him the importance of planning and preparation.

The Ant began: “Most humans wait for their assets to fail before doing anything; but some humans do try to plan ahead”. She continued, “For example, they often let their roofs leak before they start fixing them.”

The Ant explained to the Grasshopper that there are two asset replacement paradigms:

  • Failure Replacement (Grasshopper-style) – Replacement of an asset after it has failed. Sort of like party in the summer and then freeze and starve in the winter.
  • Preventive Replacement (Ant-style) – Replacement of an asset before it has failed. Work in the summer and then relax and stay warm in the winter.

“There are further variations of these strategies,” said the Ant. “I want to tell you about five different approaches to the end-of-life of assets… and here is a picture to illustrate”.

The Ant handed the Grasshopper a network diagram of asset replacement strategies. 

The Ant and Grasshopper sat comfortably in the warm and dry living room and pondered the diagram.  

1.  Run to Failure (RTF)

A conscious decision is made by the owner to neglect the asset until it fails. The owner understands and accepts the consequences of failure. There are many different types of consequences that may arise when assets fail, some being more severe than others.

An example. A professional assessment informs owners that their roof is very likely going to start leaking within the next five years. The owners understand the eventual consequence and decide not to spend any money on repairs or mitigation in the meantime. They wait for the leaks to start.

The Ant said. “You see, Grasshopper, the road leading to RTF is somewhat like you and I spending the summer singing and dancing while at the back of our minds we know that winter is coming. We have both agreed that when winter does arrive we will pull up our sleeves and together get down to some serious business.”

The Ant passed the Grasshopper a hot water bottle and said: “Continue listening closely”.

2.  Unintended Failure Replacement (UFR)

The owner makes no plans and simply reacts, with surprise, once failure has occurred. Failure was not anticipated. This is an unintended consequence of factors such as poor planning, ignorance and inadequate maintenance budget. Ignorance is the first domino in the chain reaction leading to asset failure. 

An example: The owners are angry and pointing fingers at each other when they suddenly discover that their roof is leaking and nobody was aware that this was about to occur. Things are heated and emotions are running high as a result.

The Ant turned to the Grasshopper and said, “You see, if we spend the summer singing and dancing together oblivious to the fact that there is a winter ahead, we will find ourselves faced with the harsh reality of winter. When it sets in, we may both die from exposure.” 

The Ant now had the Grasshopper’s attention. 

3.  Time-based Replacement (TbR)

Replacement of an asset when it has provided a certain amount of in-service value to the owners, but the owners’ needs are changing and there is pressure to consider alternatives. Some assets degrade physically while others simply become obsolete even though they may be in good condition. The question is whether they degrade or fade over time.

An example: the owners are informed that their boiler is working but it is not energy efficient. They are faced with the decision to continue with the existing boiler until it reaches the age where it is completely worn out or to advance the replacement schedule in order to leverage the benefits of a more efficient one sooner. 

“You see,” says the Ant, “the road leading to TbR is like us spending a few hours working each day during the summer because we know that the shorter days of winter will make it harder for us to work as much. We must always be open to new ways of doing things.”  

The Grasshopper was starting to feel his toes again. He leaned in more closely to listen to the Ant’s ongoing lesson.

4.  Age-based Replacement (AbR)

Replacement of an asset when it reaches a certain age, which is usually defined as calendar age. This approach relies heavily on statistical data on the average service lives of assets. Owners need to know how long assets last in their local climate zone and based on their local exposure conditions.

For example, a published table indicates that a certain type of roof has a typical service life of 25 years. Therefore, at year 24, the owners get themselves ready to replace the roof. 

The Grasshopper chirped “Ah, I think I understand. The road leading to AbR is somewhat like us spending the first 60 days of the summer singing and dancing. On day 61 we put on our work clothes and start preparing for the winter.”

The Grasshopper was warming up to the Ant’s stories.

5.  Condition-based Replacement (CbR)

Replacement of an asset when its performance deteriorates below a certain observable/measurable threshold.  CbR requires a good history of measured conditions in order to identify trends and patterns in the data and establish when replacement is more appropriate than continued repair and maintenance.

For example, the owners commission a thermographic scan on their electrical panel boards every three years to detect hot spots which will establish when to replace the asset. It is only through deliberate inspections and/or diagnostic testing that owners may find some of the things that are hiding in their building

The Grasshopper said “I’m starting to get it. The road leading to CbR is somewhat like us spending the summer thinking strategically about how much work is needed on different days in order to prepare for the winter. On rainy days and towards the end of the summer we must start to work harder. On the sunny days we can sing and dance together.” 

So where does this insight take the Ant and Grasshopper? 

Buildings are made up of many assets that require different strategies. Often the Ant’s approach is the best while other times the Grasshopper’s take on things is okay. 

The final diagram that Ant passed to Grasshopper summed it up nicely. It is important to align a strategy to the personality of each asset in order to ensure responsible stewardship.

Ant turned to Grasshopper and said, “So, Grasshopper, would you agree that we need to work together?”

“Yes,” said Grasshopper, “I can see that your approach should be taken for about 75% of the assets, which still leaves about 25% room for my approach.”

They had hatched a great plan for next summer.

Do you know which of your assets are being managed Grasshopper-style?


This blogpost was adapted from the Aesop’s Fable of the Grasshopper and the Ant.



Keys To Self -Awareness

Hie there ,this past weekend l discovered a faculty which the divine has expressed so well, yet you and I the purpose of the expression or creation tend to struggle in that area. 

Self-awareness (sometimes also referred to as self-knowledge or introspection) is about understanding your own needs, desires, failings, habits, and everything else that makes you tick. The more you know about yourself, the better you are at adapting life changes that suit your needs.

Of course, self-awareness is a big part of both therapy and philosophy. It’s also the basis of the quantities of self movement, which assumes that if you collect data about yourself you can make improvements based on that data. A study by New York Times gives a roots breakdown like so:

Socrates’s ukase was “know thyself.” Though it may come as a surprise to some philosophers, self-knowledge requires more than intellectual self-examination. It demands knowing something about your feelings. In my experience philosophers are, in general, not the most emotionally attuned individuals. Many are prone to treat the ebb and flow of feelings as though our passions were nothing but impediments to reason. Freud, more than the sage of Athens, grasped the moral importance of emotional self-transparency. Like the Greek tragedians but in language that did not require an ear for poetry, he reminded us of how difficult it is to own kinship with a whole range of emotions.

According to Locke, personal identity (the self) “depends on consciousness, not on substance. We are the same person to the extent that we are conscious of our past and future thoughts and actions in the same way as we are conscious of our present thoughts and actions. If consciousness is this “thought” which doubles all thoughts, then personal identity is only founded on the repeated act of consciousness: “This may show us wherein personal identity consists: not in the identity of substance, but … in the identity of consciousness “. For example, one may claim to be a reincarnation of Plato, therefore having the same soul. However, one would be the same individual as Plato only if one had the same consciousness of Plato’s thoughts and actions that he himself did. Therefore, self-identity is not based on the soul. One soul may have various personalities.

Here are tools to use 
  1. Take a personality test. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a good starting point. There are others, and they share common building blocks (e.g., The Color Code, Enneagram, etc).
  2. Participate in a 360-degree assessment, including boss, peers, and subordinates. Even include family and friends if possible.
  3. Ask for informal feedback. I don’t do this very well, but occasionally try to when I’m discussing professional development with a member of my team.
  4. Reflect on a regular basis. I set aside time in the morning before I leave for work. Solitude is needed for this kind of introspection.
  5. Write in a journal. I do this at night before I go to bed. Process the thoughts, both cathartic and enlightening.
  6. Be interviewed. Life coaches can help interpret your thoughts and actions by mirroring what they hear and asking thought-provoking questions.
  7. Exercise and seek out recreation. I’ve found that deliberate tuning out heightens my perception when I tune back in. I discovered CrossFit 2.5 years ago and haven’t looked back.

So in my conclusion I say the need to know and the fear of knowing ,remains a quest for all.

To be continued ….

What Is $uccess ????

What is Success – 


Isaac Alex Phiri 
I can not really give one specific meaning of success, but I would say success is simply:
1)reach to a place where your dreams were pointing to
2)when you get what you really wanted
3)when you triumph over your adversaries, obstacles and barriers of life.
To all the above, success can not be a when, but it has to be something within you. 

Success must be born in the mind of somebody who really wants it. s/he must convince him/her self that s/he can succeed regardless of the colour, tribe, family back ground, what is important is to paint a picture of success in your mind. thanks doctor

Geoffrey Nkhoma 
To me success is measured by the attainment of real joy or happiness. This joy comes about when we see that the people we love (God and family) are happy. There would be no real happiness if only us were happy.


Pleasing those we love brings the greatest joy to ourselves. It involves providing adequately for the present and future needs of the persons we care for (this would therefore include financial security to the extent that it enables us to provide for our loved ones). It involves doing things that would please them. This in my opinion would bring the greatest feeling of fulfilment.

Simon Abwino 

Success=Being able to obtain what you require or want to do at a specified time. 
Also means ability to meet your needs at a specified time.

To many success is measured in terms of monetary wealth. That is achieving financial independence and prosperity. But I feel that success should encompass the following areas;

*Happiness in family life and in marriage for the married people

*Having a health relationship with God almighty and confidence of eternal life

*Happiness or satisfaction in the occupation or vocation one may have. 

*Rich in respect from one’s friends and other relationships such as from workmates or workers as the case may be.  

Therefore, I feel that financial prosperity without the aspects mentioned above does not necessarily mean one is successful. 

If anything it means that one is just wealthy but one’s successful life is not complete. 

On the other hand, it is possible to have a successful life without being wealthy. 

Brian Chilubano
Success is a hidden power placed in the human spirit. Many people struggle todaynot because God wants them to be that way. The reason is, they still have less knowledge concerning God’s purpose for them. The human spirit has all the answers to all our struggles. 

 What do you say? 

A special mention of the source of pictures !

To be continued …


A pinch of influence Part 1

 The power of networking !!!
My website & other sites were mentioned of what we doing to transform others locally thus in Africa. http://www.kudadube.wordpress.com was mentioned in a presentation in Phoenix. Arizona http://m.ustream.tv/asutv


Influence is more of  this expression- “The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” – Dr. Seuss

To be continued…..